I think...

That's new. Jordan thinks. Anyway I think that in most situations, when something goes wrong we should always blame ourselves. Now before you dismiss me offhand let me explain myself. In any given situation you will have to make choices(here we go with the choices thing again) to make. These choices range in topic, like from relationships to what to eat. And these choices will take place over a variety of time periods, like the split second decision when you just decide something and the long drawn out thought process that eventually results in a decision. Small fact, I've used both of these techniques to come to a decision about asking girls out. Only one of them worked. But you will also have time later when you reflect on these choices, mostly when sleeping or about to sleep. And when you decide that something has gone wrong, you shouldn't look at anyone's faults but your own. This may seem narrow but in my experience it helps. You consider what you did wrong and you can do to fix this. Only after you have identified your own faults, so much so that if someone blames you for something you can say that you have already considered this, then you may proceed to critique others performance. Offer advice and help by all means, but try to be fully aware of your own faults first. And if someone does bring something that you have not considered to your attention then make sure to look at it. To summaries this way of thinking "look inwards before consider outwards." besides it makes you a hell of a lot less susceptible to insults if you already know what they are probably going to say. I know that adjusting to a new way of thinking isn't always a good thing. And this way of thinking doesn't always work. I'm living proof of that. But when I'm frustrated at something I will take the time to examine the problem and my role in it. And usually I come to a helpful conclusion. Still haven't tried tackling arrogance and self doubt yet. And I'm not looking forward to it. The two are really intertwined. Maybe one day I'll let you know the results of that.